When your cat is upset, the first thing you should do is ask yourself a few questions about your relationship with it.
“How can I help?” the cat’s owner may ask.
“What are my feelings about it?”
“How do I take care of it?”
Your cat may even be able to help you out with some of those questions.
For example, “Is it okay if I play with it?” and “Does it make me feel any different?”
“What can I do to make it feel better?”
If your cat doesn’t have the answers to those questions, he or she might feel that you’re not caring enough about your cat.
“I feel like you’re trying to take a piece of me and use it against me,” says Ashley, a pet care manager with a pet store in Los Angeles.
“The way I look at it, I feel like that’s my cat.”
So how do you handle this?
The first thing to do is realize that your cat might not be able help you with your emotional distress, Ashley says.
If your emotional state is getting so bad that you have to resort to other means to feel better, Ashley suggests calling a friend or relative.
“You’re a parent.
It’s your responsibility to take care and love your child,” Ashley says, “so if you can, it’s best to do so.
But if your child is acting like a little child, you have other options.”
If you can’t find a friend who can be there for you during this time, Ashley recommends going on vacation with your pets and taking care of your cat alone.
“If your cat has gotten to a point where he’s not responding to your calls or being around you anymore, then that’s probably the best time to call an animal shelter or animal clinic,” Ashley explains.
She also recommends that you talk to a friend of your choice about your emotional problems and how you can help your cat through the process.
“A lot of people don’t realize that there are resources that are available to them,” Ashley notes.
“Sometimes a friend is able to be a voice for them.”
To find a shelter that will take care for your cat during this challenging time, go to your local animal shelter.
If you have pets, Ashley encourages you to try and find a pet rescue group or rescue organization.
These groups often have a hotline that you can call to make an appointment with a trained professional.
“There are so many things that you need to understand about what happens when you have an emotional crisis, and a lot of the people who do these work for the animals are trained in animal behavior and therapy,” Ashley tells CNN.
“They have all the answers.
They can help you get through this.”
How can I handle my cat’s behavior?
Ashley also suggests talking to your veterinarian or treating your cat in a different way.
“We have a lot to learn about how to do it,” she says.
“And you’re really going to have to work on that.”
The first step to working with your cats is to figure out what behaviors they’re exhibiting, Ashley explains, and what your cat needs to do to help them.
Ashley recommends that your veterinarian consider a few different options for your pet: “A high-quality collar or harness that keeps your cat’s ears and tail away from your face,” she suggests.
“An electric collar or leash that goes up your cat and holds him or her in a good position.”
“A leash with a safety harness that allows you to carry your pet in different positions,” Ashley suggests.
Once your veterinarian is comfortable with your new behaviors, she’ll also be able determine which of the following strategies will work best for your animal: “Make your cat stand up or sit down,” Ashley recommends.
“Do not allow your cat to play in your yard,” Ashley warns.
“Keep your cat away from people, pets, toys, or other pet objects that may distract your cat.”
Finally, Ashley advises you to treat your cat with appropriate affection when it’s happy, but not in a manner that distracts your cat from being happy.
“Give your cat the treats and praise that it needs to be happy,” she explains.
“That way, your cat will feel comfortable and happy.”
The most important thing you can do is to “make your cat feel safe and loved,” Ashley stresses.
“Your cat will love you no matter what you do to treat him or make him feel safe,” she adds.
If the treatment is successful, Ashley adds that it’s time to give your cat some “time alone.”
“When you’re ready to go, let your cat be alone,” Ashley advises.
“Make sure that your new behavior is well-received, and you take the time to make that experience pleasant for your feline.”